my stupid neighbour

she is so irritatingly stupid the vast majority of time. does she think that when she says things like "gee, you are SO patient" when my kids are whining down the house, that i believe she is paying me a compliment. nothing like a badhanded compliment to piss me off. patient equals completely ineffective. i get it.
i am not too sure why the people in my life feel they get to weigh in on my mothering skills, or lack thereof. i am not too sure why i haven't been more effective in letting them know that i am doing just fine and my kids are learning the things i think are important. guess i am ineffective. but they are my kids to screw up and if i wanted an opinion on how i am doing i would seek that out. i really try hard to not judge what is happening with others parenting. its a hard job and mommies need to stick together. but in a true way. not this, i am better than you, bullshitty way.